TOUCH Parenting · Family Tool
Family Love Language Map
Everyone in your family feels loved in their own way. This free tool helps you see how each person feels most loved, where your family connects, and simple ways to fill everyone's cup.
How It Works
- 1Add Your FamilyEnter each person's quiz results, or give a quick 1 to 5 rating if you don't have them.
- 2See Your MapSpot what your family shares, and who needs something a little different.
- 3Read The InsightsPlain-language takeaways, sorted by what matters most for your week.
- 4Get Your PlanSimple one-to-one ideas for each child, with a heads up on the ones that won't come naturally to you.
Your answers stay on this device only. Nothing is sent or stored online.
The Five Love Languages
Tap one to learn more.
Need Your Results First?
Each person can take the free official quiz (there are versions for adults, teens and children). Write down their five scores, then come back here.
Take The Official Quiz ↗No time? You can still use Quick Rate in Step 1 and give your best guess.
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Add Your Family
Adding everyone lets the map show where your family connects and where someone needs something different. Include yourself and anyone else who cares for the children.
You're looking at the Lim family, an example to show how a finished map looks.
Tips For Entering Results
- Quiz Scores: type the five numbers exactly as the quiz gave them. Percentages or points both work, as the map only looks at how they compare.
- Quick Rate: no quiz? Tap 1 to 5 hearts for how much each one lights that person up.
- Children under seven need all five love languages. Use Quick Rate for what you notice they respond to most.
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Your Family Map
Seeing everyone side by side helps you spot what your family has in common and who feels loved in a different way, so nobody gets missed.
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What Your Map Means
These takeaways turn the map into plain language, starting with what can make the biggest difference to your family's week.
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Your One-to-One Plan
We tend to show love the way we like to receive it. This plan shows what each person needs from you, and flags the ones that won't come naturally, so you can plan them in.
A Gentle Reminder
A low score doesn't mean someone doesn't need that kind of love. Everyone needs all five, and young children especially so. Scores just show what fills each person's cup fastest.
Treat this as a conversation starter, not a verdict. Show each person their results and ask, "Does this sound like you?" Children grow and change, so try it again next year.